The Deflation Point


In my previous post "A Better Way" I discussed the large majority of the population that dislikes their work. To make this more relatable, I'd like to now talk about something I call "The Deflation Point".

I've had a couple of jobs in the past that, for a variety of reasons, I just hated. It took me a while to realize this, but every single day, there would be a specific moment where I think my soul and all happy feelings actually escaped from my body.

For one job it was when I sat down at my desk and opened up my email. My over-cluttered, completely useless, mundane, soul-crushing email. I didn't realize it at the time, but I would actually sit at my computer looking through my computer screen (like a 5 year old) in a crappy job coma.

For another, it was when I would reach a certain intersection a couple blocks from the office. I would be walking and enjoying the weather and the city with happy thoughts in my mind and then BAM! Like a sledgehammer, I'd be hit over the head and overcome with the realization that I was about to enter hell...I mean, work, where all fun and good ideas go to die.

Basically, this:

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At first I thought this was just me. I was being dramatic and there was no such thing, I mean how could that even be possible.

Then I started talking to people. Hundreds of other people, and I was blown away:

"For me it's the second I open my car door to drive to the train"

"As soon as I get out of the shower and have to get dressed"

"Once I see the building, it's as if part of me dies"

"When I hear my bosses voice I actually go from happy to close to tears"

More than anything, the people I was speaking to seemed to be relieved that what they were experiencing wasn't isolated to only them. It also help crystalize the fact that there was in fact a problem.

Many of the folks I've spoken to about this have since made some changes: new jobs, completely new industries, chasing a dream, etc. That said, many have not.

One thing I can tell you for a fact - Every single person that made a change, no matter how hard it was to do, or the many bumps in the road, is happier today then they were then.

One thing I'd like to make clear is that "making a change" doesn't need to be as drastic and leaving a job and putting your life savings on the line. Change can be iterative, even the smallest of changes can snowball to great things. I'd challenge you to come up with some changes you can make that you feel would make your days more enjoyable and fulfilling and instead of thinking about them, make them.

If this applies to you, I would love to hear your thoughts, your deflation point and why you think it's so hard to change/overcome it. Please just contact me directly at

Phil Bellini